Holding each other accountable:
My husband and I struggled in this area for a while and are still working on it. Holding one another accountable is a very vital component of a marriage. It’s like a main artery leading to the heart. Holding your husband or wife accountable with finances, spiritual growth, parenting, communication and schedules can mean the difference between making or breaking your relationship. My husband lives by a schedule, if it's not planned it's not happening. On the other hand, I simply I don’t rely on schedules too much; Because that’s just my personality and I believe that even when there is a schedule in place it may not work out as planned...but that‘s neither here nor there. Needless to say, I would inform my husband about activties the kids would have prior to the week and forget to mention it again as the event date got closer. Handling things like that was causing an issue as he would forget about the events. So he went out and purchased a huge planner that we could jot down our weekly activities in. Everything we had going on was now visible and he wouldn’t forget. This is an awesome way to see whats going on and there are no mix ups now.
Being married we must remember that we are a team. We are in this together, when one falls the other is there to pick up the pieces. Communication is a key factor in any relationship especially marriage. Take a day or two out of the week to really catch up with one another. Asking questions such as, How’s work?, What are some things we should be praying for with each other?, whats going on with the kids?, how are we doing financially?, what are your thoughts?, how are you feeling?. These are just a few questions to help you.
Having another couple for accountability is awesome. It’s not to place anyone in your business, let me just put that out there. But it‘s to get different perspectives of the same thing that you and your spouse may not see. My mom always told me‚ “ two eyes are better than one.“ Now understand that with accountability comes correction. If you don’t want to be held accountable, then you don’t want to grow. You can‘t grow in any area if you are easily offended, wear your feelings on your sleeve, feel that your way is the only way , or that you are always right. Those thoughts will hinder your growth. When choosing the other couple always pray and ask God to lead you to the right couple. Make sure that you all are on one accord and they also want to grow. We all are held accoutable one way or another. As you are on this journey to a wonderful marriage I pray that you are open to recieve correction so you can continue to grow in love! Until next time...
9 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: 10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.